December 28, 2021

This hasn’t happened recently, but it’s happened a lot over the course of my life: A person tries to predict my taste in gifts or music or memes, and they get it right on the surface but wrong at the root.

My first memory of this was in about 4th grade, when a friend saw …

December 27, 2021

I used to love the phrase “can’t see the forest for the trees,” because it gave me a way to explain why I often miss the big picture… I focus too much on the details!

But “can’t see” is inaccurate. It would be better to say it takes me longer to see the forest, because …

December 19, 2021

If you self-identify as autistic, people will doubt it because you don’t look autistic.

If you self-identify as autistic, and you write hundreds of posts explaining why, people will doubt it because you don’t have the medical establishment’s seal of approval.

If you get officially diagnosed, and it happens easily, people will doubt it because …

December 11, 2021

If you’re consistently understimulated, then you might have ADHD.

If you’re consistently overstimulated, then you might be a Highly Sensitive Person.

If you waver between overstimulation and understimulation, depending on the environment and the day – sometimes feeling both at once in different parts of your body – and it’s so all-encompassing to figure out …

December 6, 2021

Whenever I see myself on video, I cringe. It puts a spotlight on ways of speaking and moving that I don’t notice from the inside, and don’t enjoy observing.

Yet, when I try to identify what turns me off about those mannerisms, the only way I can express it is through exaggerated, mocking imitation.

Where …

November 21, 2021

Autistic children don’t scream, hit, bite, or run away when their sensory, processing, and communication needs are met.

When that does happen, it’s not because they’re autistic. It’s because something is hurting them.

So quit trying to bribe autistic kids with rewards, which won’t help for actions outside of their control. Instead, get curious!

Is …

November 10, 2021

If you have 500 Facebook friends, then on average, 10 of those friends have been diagnosed with autism.

Do you know who your 10 are?

Autistics only seem rare because some get sent to separate schools, some hide it due to fear of discrimination, and some never realize they’re autistic at all.

But we are …

November 7, 2021

In 6th grade, the most popular way for bullies at my school to insult other students (and one another) was to say, “You’re special… SPECIAL ED!”

Then they would run off, cackling at the cleverness of their wordplay. If a teacher heard them, they might get a reprimand, but not for the right reasons.

See, …

November 6, 2021

Why is it so common for teachers to have one student read aloud while others follow along in the book? It’s way too much multitasking for my brain.

I can only listen if I’m not reading. I can only read if I’m not listening. And I can only track where the current reader is on …

October 30, 2021

I can’t meditate. I mean, I can – but it’s the opposite of relaxing.

If I follow commands about when and how to breathe, it makes me feel lightheaded, like I’m drowning.

If I follow commands about what to think, it feels physically strenuous. It interrupts my brain’s natural flow of repeating thoughts until they’re …