February 1, 2019

Autistics never “overreact.” If you see us react strongly to something, it usually means that we do feel that strongly about it.

A child who sounds like they’re plummeting to the depths of despair? They may literally feel that way.

A teenager who won’t budge when ordered to do something? They may literally be paralyzed …

January 31, 2019

It can be hard to recognize something as a “special interest” – a passion so strong that it counts as an autistic symptom – if the interest itself doesn’t have a precise label, or if you’ve never learned the label.

Two of my special interests are like that: Phenomenology and storybookishness.

I was surprised when …

January 29, 2019

Someone who knows me very well says that he imagines the inside of my brain like the interior of a castle.

Stained glass windows stretch all the way up the walls of its grandest room, spilling colorful light onto rows of desks where scribes sit typing. What they write gets sent up pneumatic tubes, to …

January 28, 2019

I want to say a bit about how grief and heartbreak affect me as an autistic – and I want to say it now, while I’m neither grieving nor heartbroken. Maybe it won’t sound as powerful as when the experience is fresh and raw, but now is when I feel grounded enough to analyze and …

January 22, 2019

The best way for me to handle strong emotions is to transform them into something else.

Movement is the most natural outlet. Emotions can feel like a physical force, welling up in my chest and bursting out through my limbs, so rocking or swaying gives them a place to go. A friend once told me, …

January 19, 2019

You’ve heard of air guitar. When I was in middle school, my classmates and I created an entire air band.

At lunchtime, we would put on a CD and each pretend to play an instrument. I was on the drums, hitting invisible rhythms with invisible drumsticks, and it felt like the most natural thing in …

January 18, 2019

Would it be useful to announce my autism on a medical bracelet? What would that say about me?

Well, I know what I wish it would say.

I wish it would say to police officers, “I strictly follow every rule to the best of my ability. If it seems like I’m not following directions, it’s …

January 17, 2019

Earlier this week, I wrote about some things I wish I’d realized as a teenager. But what about as a little kid?

If I could go back in time, this is what I’d tell my childhood self:

1. Your brain is different.
2. It will make some things easier.
3. It will make some things …

January 17, 2019

I empathize very strongly whenever I hear the sound of a crying child, especially a wailing baby. It seems to me like a very reasonable reaction to the frequent frustrations of daily life, and it feels like they’re speaking on my behalf with sounds that aren’t socially acceptable for me to make.

I believe that …

January 16, 2019

Many autistics object to the symbol of a puzzle piece, because none of us want to be puzzling. If others want to understand us, we want to help.

I’ve found that there are two key principles which enable anyone to understand me better.

The first is this: There is no subtext.

I say what I …