NeurobeautifulFour approaches to stimming…
BAD: “I shouldn’t let myself stim.”
GOOD: “I should let myself stim when I feel like it.”
BETTER: “I should remember, when I’m anxious or overwhelmed, that stimming is a strategy I can intentionally use to calm myself.”
BEST: “I should remember, when I’m about to enter a stressful situation, that …
In my last post, I suggested that 2-3 years after discovering you’re autistic may be a sweet spot for advocacy writing. I’m also beginning to wonder if 2-3 thousand page likes is a sweet spot for having readers who actively engage with that writing.
If so, then let me seize this moment to say something …
I’m noticing a pattern. Among the autistic writers I follow, I’m finding out that more and more of them only discovered their autism in the past two or three years.
Maybe this is just part of a targeted algorithm to feed me relatable content. Or maybe, among those of us actively writing, there truly are …
Yesterday, a friend complimented my ability to build healthy relationships by clearly communicating my boundaries, expectations, and wishes – and asking others for theirs in return.
I thanked her, but also laughed, saying that I only have this ability because I’m compensating for my disability. The reason I try so hard to establish clarity is …
It seems to me that very few people are willing to write publicly about how autism can affect romantic touch. I want to say a couple things about that, because if you feel the same way, I want you to know that you’re not alone.
First, “sensory sensitivity” might make some kinds of touch uncomfortable. …
Before learning about autism, I used to have mysterious meltdowns. Well into adulthood, I would sometimes break down crying without understanding why, then apologize shamefully for the tears that I couldn’t justify.
I still have meltdowns occasionally, but less often, because now I understand what triggers them. For me, it’s a combination of sensory overload …