NeurobeautifulI’m noticing a pattern. Among the autistic writers I follow, I’m finding out that more and more of them only discovered their autism in the past two or three years.
Maybe this is just part of a targeted algorithm to feed me relatable content. Or maybe, among those of us actively writing, there truly are …
Yesterday, a friend complimented my ability to build healthy relationships by clearly communicating my boundaries, expectations, and wishes – and asking others for theirs in return.
I thanked her, but also laughed, saying that I only have this ability because I’m compensating for my disability. The reason I try so hard to establish clarity is …
It seems to me that very few people are willing to write publicly about how autism can affect romantic touch. I want to say a couple things about that, because if you feel the same way, I want you to know that you’re not alone.
First, “sensory sensitivity” might make some kinds of touch uncomfortable. …
Before learning about autism, I used to have mysterious meltdowns. Well into adulthood, I would sometimes break down crying without understanding why, then apologize shamefully for the tears that I couldn’t justify.
I still have meltdowns occasionally, but less often, because now I understand what triggers them. For me, it’s a combination of sensory overload …
What does it mean to “fit in”?
It means your appearance and behaviors match the mold of a given social circle.
Why would anyone want that?
Because sameness leads to acceptance, which leads to connection, which leads to belonging.
Why aren’t differences accepted too?
They are, just not by everyone. If you’re brave enough to …