February 4, 2019

What does it mean to “fit in”?

It means your appearance and behaviors match the mold of a given social circle.

Why would anyone want that?

Because sameness leads to acceptance, which leads to connection, which leads to belonging.

Why aren’t differences accepted too?

They are, just not by everyone. If you’re brave enough to accept your own differences, then you’ll find out who is kind enough to accept them too.

Where does that bravery come from?

From seeing that a wish to fit in is nothing more than a wish to belong – and you don’t always have to fit in to belong.

P.S. I write from my personal experience as an autistic. What I share is not a substitute for advice from an autistic medical professional. Also, some of my opinions have changed since I first wrote them.