October 25, 2022

It’s here! What I Mean When I Say I’m Autistic is now available in paperback, hardcover, and every kind of ebook.

For autistics everywhere, this is a book to help you understand your brain more deeply, with words you can borrow to describe who you truly are.

For non-autistics, it’s a book to see the …

September 26, 2022

Ways I self-advocate when I need reassurance:

“Please tell me a fact that I already know.”

Doesn’t matter what the fact is – mulling on truth keeps me grounded. Some people count sensory input (things they can see/hear/etc.) to reduce anxiety, but I find it less overwhelming to observe what’s inside me than what’s around …

September 25, 2022

Curiosity is important to me.

If I think someone is wrong, I try to learn more. If they extend the same grace to me, then we can figure out the truth together.

Sometimes, this causes me to change my mind.

I used to say I’m an aspie. Now I say I’m autistic.

I used to …

August 28, 2022

I got my first homework planner when I was 11. It was life-changing, but another year passed before I began to apply the same concept to personal goals.

In the meantime – the year leading up to my first to-do list – I made an epic mistake. A list could have saved me, and it …

May 19, 2022

The most common tips I hear for living your best autistic life are to protect your senses, explore your interests, accept your differences, and ask for what you need.

But there are other, less common tips that also help support autistic wellness. Here are three:

    Strengthen your joints. You may not be hypermobile enough to

May 15, 2022

People who experience anxiety often find it helpful to tune into their senses. A common strategy is to notice and name things you can see, hear, feel, and smell.

When my anxiety is brought on by sensory overload, though, that strategy is the exact opposite of helpful. I’m already overly aware of all the things, …

April 23, 2022

Lying awake at night, knowing nothing about neurodiversity, I sometimes got a strong urge to rub my feet together like a cricket. So I did.

But partway through, I always paused, just to prove I could. Then I continued.

For some reason, I thought the behavior was acceptable if I could stop it, and not …

April 1, 2022

April Fools’ Day is designed for telling lies where people expect truth. But my idea of fun is to tell truth where people expect lies.

In high school, one April 1st, I wrote the word “gullible” on a small piece of paper and taped it to the classroom ceiling.

I was hoping that someone would …

February 6, 2022

Why does autism create such a wide spectrum of traits?

Because autistic brains are hyper-connected. You can see it on a brain scan. We have neural pathways that others don’t, like secret passages all over our brains.

This results in a torrent of information to process, including physical sensations and pattern recognition. By default, everything …

February 3, 2022

There’s autism, a neurotype with a cluster of predispositions. From birth, it makes some things enjoyable and other things hard.

Then there’s autistic distress, which is the way that neurotype interacts with stressors. It varies over time, based on the environment and any co-occurring conditions.

The first thing is what most advocates call “autism.” The …