January 16, 2019

Many autistics object to the symbol of a puzzle piece, because none of us want to be puzzling. If others want to understand us, we want to help.

I’ve found that there are two key principles which enable anyone to understand me better.

The first is this: There is no subtext.

I say what I mean and I mean what I say. I cannot read between the lines, nor will I expect anyone else to do so.

The second is this: All questions are good.

Questions draw out my perspective, and prove that it matters. When others care how I think, it means so much to me.

Like mathematical principles, these two ideas lead to many others when applied. But for me, they are the base.

P.S. I write from my personal experience as an autistic. What I share is not a substitute for advice from an autistic medical professional. Also, some of my opinions have changed since I first wrote them.