February 11, 2018

“How can non-autistics be more supportive toward autistics?”

I sooo appreciate it when my non-autistic friends ask this! ย Every autistic person is different, so it’s best to ask the ones you know. As for me, I appreciate it when you…

ALLOW ME TO “STIM” โ€“ I feel so much calmer when I know that it’s okay for me to fidget, rock, or move in other repetitive ways.

BE PATIENT โ€“ I may need a little extra time to form my thoughts into words, or to transition from one activity to another.

CREATE CALM SPACES โ€“ If a place is loud or crowded, then I want to escape. In a place that’s calm and familiar, I can relax.

DISCUSS DIRECTLY โ€“ I’m not great at reading between the lines. If you like me, or need something, or have a suggestion, just say so.

ENCOURAGE MY INTERESTS โ€“ If I’m excited about a hobby or topic, then it’s always on my mind, so I love being able to talk about it.

FORGIVE AWKWARDNESS โ€“ I might act or speak in unusual ways, but please understand that I’m not trying to make you uncomfortable.

GIVE NOTICE โ€“ Unpredictability is stressful. If you let me know your plans ahead of time, I can prepare for them.

Thank you so much!ย 

P.S. I write from my personal experience as an autistic. What I share is not a substitute for advice from an autistic medical professional. Also, some of my opinions have changed since I first wrote them.