October 21, 2018

“What is one piece of advice that you wish you could give all autistics? How about all non-autistics?”

Someone asked me these two questions today, and my answers were more alike than I expected.

For autistics, I said: Never stop looking for ways to make hard things easier, from social interaction to sensory overload. You do not deserve to suffer! Keep experimenting, keep reading how other autistics have overcome similar challenges, and keep looking for ways to improve how you feel.

For everyone else, I said: Pay attention to that little voice in your head that sometimes looks at a person and labels their appearance, behavior, or mannerisms as “weird”. Every time you hear it, pause and wonder what the purpose might be for the thing that stands out to you, because there probably is one.

Someone responded that both these answers could be summed up as: Be curious! Curious to find solutions for problems, curious to learn reasons for actions – curious about self, curious about others.

What other advice would you give?

P.S. I write from my personal experience as an autistic. What I share is not a substitute for advice from an autistic medical professional. Also, some of my opinions have changed since I first wrote them.