December 11, 2021

If you’re consistently understimulated, then you might have ADHD.

If you’re consistently overstimulated, then you might be a Highly Sensitive Person.

If you waver between overstimulation and understimulation, depending on the environment and the day – sometimes feeling both at once in different parts of your body – and it’s so all-encompassing to figure out …

December 6, 2021

Whenever I see myself on video, I cringe. It puts a spotlight on ways of speaking and moving that I don’t notice from the inside, and don’t enjoy observing.

Yet, when I try to identify what turns me off about those mannerisms, the only way I can express it is through exaggerated, mocking imitation.

Where …

November 21, 2021

Autistic children don’t scream, hit, bite, or run away when their sensory, processing, and communication needs are met.

When that does happen, it’s not because they’re autistic. It’s because something is hurting them.

So quit trying to bribe autistic kids with rewards, which won’t help for actions outside of their control. Instead, get curious!

Is …

November 10, 2021

If you have 500 Facebook friends, then on average, 10 of those friends have been diagnosed with autism.

Do you know who your 10 are?

Autistics only seem rare because some get sent to separate schools, some hide it due to fear of discrimination, and some never realize they’re autistic at all.

But we are …

November 7, 2021

In 6th grade, the most popular way for bullies at my school to insult other students (and one another) was to say, “You’re special… SPECIAL ED!”

Then they would run off, cackling at the cleverness of their wordplay. If a teacher heard them, they might get a reprimand, but not for the right reasons.

See, …

November 6, 2021

Why is it so common for teachers to have one student read aloud while others follow along in the book? It’s way too much multitasking for my brain.

I can only listen if I’m not reading. I can only read if I’m not listening. And I can only track where the current reader is on …

October 30, 2021

I can’t meditate. I mean, I can – but it’s the opposite of relaxing.

If I follow commands about when and how to breathe, it makes me feel lightheaded, like I’m drowning.

If I follow commands about what to think, it feels physically strenuous. It interrupts my brain’s natural flow of repeating thoughts until they’re …

October 30, 2021

Sensory tips for cold weather!

1. Legwarmers are great. I think of them as ankle scarves. They protect the space between your pants and your shoes, if you don’t want to wear boots or thick socks.

2. Heated bean bags are not just for sore muscles. They also feel nice on my lap in a …

October 26, 2021

“Treat others as you’d like to be treated” does not mean feeding them your favorite ice cream, dressing them in your favorite clothes, or subjecting them to your favorite TV shows.

So why do people assume it means greeting others in your preferred way, engaging them in your preferred activities, and interacting according to your …

October 23, 2021

Autistic people have the best social skills. We do things that many cannot, even if they try.

Like telling the truth – precisely, thoroughly, and unreservedly.

Like judging by merits and integrity, without regard for status or authority.

Like diving past surface-level pleasantries to explore the depths of one another’s fascination.

Maybe these aren’t the …