December 6, 2018

For most of my life, all I knew about autism was that it’s a disability that sometimes causes kids to rock back and forth.

I learned most of that from a bumper sticker, which said: “My autistic kid rocks – colloquially and kinesthetically!”

That was accurate, but incomplete. I wish I’d also known that:


November 29, 2018

Autistic brains are beautiful.

Not only from the outside looking in, but also from the inside looking out.

We see a world full of intense complexity.

Brimming with beauty.

It can be overwhelming sometimes, to take in the beautiful and the bothersome, the glorious and the grating, the deeply exhilarating and the downright exhausting.

All. …

November 29, 2018

“Do you sell any colorful duct tape?” I ask.

“Hmmm, how colorful are we talking?” he answers with a smile. He isn’t being serious. It’s a craft store, so if they have duct tape at all, it will be colorful.

When a store associate isn’t being serious, it’s always a he. They do it so …

November 27, 2018

Being autistic reminds me of a typical fantasy novel.

It begins with a young girl who doesn’t quite fit in with the rest of the village. There’s something special about her, and at first she can only see the trouble that it causes.

Then one day, she learns the reason. She is different, perhaps secretly …

November 26, 2018

As the holiday season begins, please remember:


If you’re not sure how, here are some ideas…

When you’re running low on spoons at a party: “Just a heads up, I can only stay about half an hour more.”

When someone wants to hang out: “Can you join me at this …

November 23, 2018

The more we learn about autistic neurology, the more we can see how beautiful our brains are. And the more we learn what our brains need to thrive, the more beautiful our lives will become.

Seeing beauty, creating beauty – both of these get easier the more we understand ourselves.

Stories of autistic experiences are …

November 22, 2018

Diversity matters in media, because it’s important for everyone to see that someone like them can be victorious and loved.

With neurodiversity in particular, that doesn’t have to mean labeling characters as autistic. For me, what matters is seeing characters who act and think like me.

Jane Eyre was the first. I read that book …

November 20, 2018

A Thanksgiving Blessing:

May you find safe and happy corners in the midst of any crowd, full of interesting conversation on your favorite topics.

May you find ways that are comfortable for you to be helpful in the kitchen, with straightforward and precise instructions.

May you find, among the feast spread before you, food whose …

November 17, 2018

I can’t think of any situation where it’s helpful to use the word “obvious.”

The problem is that it implies universal understanding. If I happen to not understand a thing that someone else says is “obvious,” it can feel very disheartening.

Instead of “This fact is obvious,” I prefer to hear, “I can tell that …

November 9, 2018

Whenever I drive to a place where I’ll need to act social, I spend a few minutes alone in my parked car before I go in, trying to mentally prepare and gather strength. My dad caught me doing this when I visited recently, and was confused by my delay.

I wasn’t able to explain it …