Ways I self-advocate when I need reassurance:
“Please tell me a fact that I already know.”
Doesn’t matter what the fact is – mulling on truth keeps me grounded. Some people count sensory input (things they can see/hear/etc.) to reduce anxiety, but I find it less overwhelming to observe what’s inside me than what’s around me.
“Please talk me through all the possible outcomes.”
This is a more effective way to convince me that I’m going to be okay no matter what.
“Please ask me a question.”
This is less about comforting fears, and more about building connection, since questions are my love language. It took many years for me to figure out that I could ask for them directly.
What kind of reassurance do you find most helpful, and how do you ask for it?