Your pain is valid. What they said shouldn’t hurt, did.
Your intentions are valid. What they said was malicious, wasn’t.
Your passions are valid. What they said isn’t worthwhile, is.
Your boundaries are valid. What they said is selfish, isn’t.
Your life is valid. What they said is tragic, does not have to be.
More often than not. With exceptions, perhaps. But only you know, and only you can say.
Nothing about you is true just because they said so.