September 22, 2020

Here’s a simple script for self-advocacy:

“Autistic people often [general trait].

Since I’m autistic, I [specific example of general trait], which makes it difficult for me to [do a hard thing].

I would be able to [do the hard thing] more easily with [accommodation that would help me do the thing].

Is that possible?”

That version is for talking or writing to people who already know you’re autistic. If they don’t, and you don’t feel comfortable telling them, try this instead:

“I find it really difficult to [do a hard thing].

I would be able to [do the hard thing] more easily with [accommodation that would help me do the thing].

Is that possible?”

Adjust this as needed for your unique situation, but it’s the basic structure that I follow with friends, family, co-workers, and service providers.

If you don’t have such a script already, then I hope this helps. If you do, then I’d love to hear yours in the comments!

P.S. I write from my personal experience as an autistic. What I share is not a substitute for advice from an autistic medical professional. Also, some of my opinions have changed since I first wrote them.